Response-Able Consulting Inc. | | |  Greetings,
Welcome to our Fall 2008 NEWS-you-can-use-LETTER. Miracles do happen and my marriage Saturday, October 18 to my lovely new bride, Trish, is evidence of that. Just a few short years ago, I was proclaiming I would never marry again after a painful divorce left me disillusioned with marriage and relationships. Here I am basking in the wonderful summer-like fall weather and glancing through photos of the wedding celebration. And realizing, it truly is possible to change and move forward, despite the past. And you can, too. Simply read on… |
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Stop Using Your Head – Part 3 
This is the last in a series of three articles that presents six recent discoveries about the brain that help explain our success-and failure-as it relates to living our lives and working towards our professional and personal goals (this information is based on the coaching model I use and the intellectual property of Results Coaching Systems).
In the first article, I presented Finding #1: The Brain Is a Connection Machine and Finding #2: No Two Brains Are Even Remotely Alike. In the second article, my focus was on Finding #3: The Brain Works to Hardwire Everything Useful and Finding #4: Perception Is Driven by Our Hardwiring.
This final article presents Finding #5: It’s Almost Impossible to Change Old Wiring and Finding #6: It’s Easy to Create New Wiring, and how you can apply them in your work, business, and/or life.
Finding #5: It’s Almost Impossible to Change Old Wiring
Because the brain is a connection machine (Finding1 #1) and it works hard to wire everything (Finding #3), anything you pay attention to or focus on becomes stronger in the brain. Applied to Finding #5, if you focus on old wiring, you actually strengthen it. Counterintuitive, isn’t it?!
Having trouble picturing this? Pretend your old wiring is like a plant and attention is like sunlight. Pay attention to your wiring and it grows; ignore it, and it eventually withers.
This goes a long way in explaining why, despite all your efforts and focus on turning a weakness into a strength, it’s remains a weakness.
Why is this important to you?
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Surviving the Fog of Divorce 
A few years back, CBS’ The Early Show presented a week-long series that focused on the emotional journey people go through when they experience a divorce. Warren Farrell, a Ph.D. and author on the program, indicated a divorce support group is probably the most important thing a man can do when going through this difficult period.
Farrell was quoted on the program as saying, "In most divorces, women are the ones likely to ask to end the marriage. For many men, divorce means his home becomes his wife’s home, and his children are turned against him. And he fears spending his life working for people who hate him."
What does he suggest to deal with the pain of divorce? Join an all-male support group.
If you’re looking for help, support, or guidance as you move into, through, or out of a divorce, contact me at paul@divorcecoaching4men.com or call 516.216.4233. I’ve been there, I made it through-and I can help.
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| | Jim Ewing & Superior Resource Printing & Graphics 
Every issue we feature a different professional from our valuable network. This issue, we’re spotlighting Jim Ewing, founder of Superior Resource Printing & Graphics.
Superior Resource Printing & Graphics is a full service printing and graphics company founded in 1992 by Jim Ewing, a 30-year veteran of the printing industry. Jim founded Superior Resource to connect businesses with the exact resources they need to achieve their printing & graphics business goals.
Superior Resource strives to become a trusted business advocate who represents your needs with their numerous vendors. They work with you to identify a superior solution to your printing and graphic needs, often making suggestions that save you time and money AND result in a superior outcome. They can create value where you may not even realize value exists. Then, they manage the process for you doing what they do best so you can focus on doing what you do best.
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 One of our company values is Generosity. We live this value by giving time, talent, and money to special individuals and organizations. This month, we highlight two efforts that deserve your consideration. The first involves students helping others and the second involves others helping students.
Please take a moment to read about both on our website.
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 "The important thing is this: To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become." ~Charles DuBois
"To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly." ~Henri Bergson "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." ~M. Scott Peck "You can judge your age by the amount of pain you feel when you come in contact with a new idea." ~Pearl S. Buck "What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him." ~Victor Frankl "The human mind once stretched by a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions." ~Oliver Wendell Holmes "Life changes when we change." ~Andrew Matthews |
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Response-Able Consulting helps successful businesspeople pursue lives of intention and fulfillment. We are also proud to offer a one-of-a-kind Divorce Coaching Program for Men. Our clients identify, work toward, and achieve meaningful work and life goals faster as a result of our brain-based coaching model.
We typically distribute our NEWS-you-can-use-LETTER once each quarter. If there are issues keeping you awake at night, please share them with us and we’ll address them in future newsletters. I hope you found our Fall 2008 issue useful.
Ciao for now,
Paul McGinniss, ACC RCC SBL MSHR Response-Able Consulting Inc. |
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