| Response-Able Consulting LLC NEWS-you-can-use-LETTER Coaching for Work | Business | Life Winter 2009 | | |
 Dear Paul, Welcome to the Winter 2009 NEWS-you-can-use-LETTER. Can you believe it’s 2010?!? I can’t. But I believe this will be a year of firsts: first year of the new decade, first year of a US economic recovery, first year as a dad (really!). I’m excited about all of the possibilities. So rather than talk about resolutions, let’s focus on continuing our journey toward success, happiness, fulfillment. In fact, let’s focus on living this year like it was our last, even though it’s a first! Did I confuse you? Read on. |
| Coach’s Corner
Starting at the End Why is it that some goals seem to never materialize? What I’ve noticed from my own and from others’ experiences is that an emotional connection to the goal is necessary for its achievement. Many times, people create what I call “should” goals for themselves: “I should eat better,” “I should manage my time more effectively,” “I should be more patient with my employees” and on and on. The problem is, it takes energy to focus on and work toward a goal and there needs to be a strong payoff for the brain and body to expend that energy. The brain’s normal state is to remain on alert for threats. As soon as we start to think, we’re using up precious resources and energy. The brain will resist this. Create enough of an emotional pull (achieve a positive) OR push (avoid a negative) and you will create internal motivation. The brain doesn’t want to do the work but it loves the payoff of having done the work — and it wants more of that payoff. One way to create that emotional pull or push is to picture yourself on your deathbed and consider your life if you did or didn’t accomplish your goal. This will often help you cut to the chase to whether the goal is a true goal or a “should” goal. Stephen Covey calls it “Begin with the End in Mind.” I call it good thinking. |
| Ask the Coach! “Hey Paul, I’ve got this situation…” Issue: I’m not excited about my goals. I can’t seem to make any progress. Coach: As mentioned in the Coach’s Corner above, most of the time when people are not making progress on their goals it is because they are not truly connected to their goals on a deep emotional level. What I mean by that is a person is probably not excited about achieving the goal, he is not inspired by it, it is not materially or tangibly significant for her to accomplish. (Sometimes, it’s simply an untimely goal.) There are hundreds of continuous external messages bombarding us to behave a certain way, to look a certain way, to fit in, to keep up. This can result in setting goals that we think are important but we end up disconnected from. For instance, when was the last time you achieved a goal you set and felt nothing or even let down? I believe this is because it is not YOUR goal, it is society’s goal for you. Make sense? SUGGESTION: Start thinking about what would truly make your life worthwhile and examine your current goals in light of that. Consider whether the goals you currently have are your true goals or society’s goals for you. Then reset and reconnect to your goals! Most of us wrestle with similar situations and questions. If you have a burning question or issue you want to resolve, send it to me and we’ll address it here. Note: All identities remain completely confidential (no real names will be used). |
| In the Professional Spotlight
Beyond Nutrition Balanced SolutionsEvery issue, I recognize one very special colleague from my growing network. This issue, I’m spotlighting Marianne Bellino, CHC MBA — founder of Beyond Nutrition Balanced Solutions. Marianne is a Wellness Coach, Educator, and Consultant. Marianne specializes in nutrition, fitness, and life/stress/time management solutions for individuals and corporations. Her programs and services are customized to provide a simple strategy: Be Healthy, Be Organized, Be Efficient, Be Balanced™. Marianne understands first-hand how the demands and stresses of a busy lifestyle can affect your health. She has been able to reap the rewards of a balanced lifestyle and is passionate about helping others to do the same. If there’s one thing I realize, it’s that we need energy to pursue our goals, realize our dreams, and live our passions. Marianne can help you maximize your health and create the energy you need to live your life to the fullest. Contact Marianne by email or by phone 917.250.0267 to schedule a consultation. Check out the BNBS website |
Quotes On …
Energy “Energy and persistence alter all things.” ~Benjamin Franklin “And what is a man without energy? Nothing – nothing at all.” ~Mark Twain “A strong, successful man is not the victim of his environment. He creates favorable conditions. His own inherent force and energy compel things to turn out as he desires.” ~ Orison Swett Marden ” Energy is an eternal delight, and he who desires, but acts not, breeds pestilence .” ~William Blake “If I would be happy, I would be a bad ballplayer. With me, when I get mad, it puts energy in my body.” ~Roberto Clemente “The first requisite for success is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem incessantly without growing weary.” ~Thomas A. Edison “The key that unlocks energy is desire. It’s also the key to a long and interesting life. If we expect to create any drive, any real force within ourselves, we have to get excited.” ~Earl Nightingale “You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.” ~Sheilah Graham “Nothing can add more power to your life than concentrating all you energies on a limited set of targets.” ~Nido Qubein “See where your own energy wants to go, not where you think it should go. Do something because it feels right, not because it makes sense. Follow the spiritual impulse.” ~Mary Hayes-Grieco “Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second. Give your dreams all you’ve got and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you.” ~William James |
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Response-Able Consulting LLC uses a variety of brain-based coaching models to help workplace and business leaders create the kind of results that support achieving their life’s work, vision, and purpose. By working with how your brain works, we can facilitate positive change and help you get from where you are to where you want to be more quickly. If there are issues keeping you awake at night, please share them with us and we’ll address them in future newsletters. I hope you found this issue useful. (We typically distribute our NEWS-you-can-use-LETTER once each quarter.) Sincerely, 
Paul McGinniss, PCC SBL(R) MSHR Coaching for Work | Business | Life Response-Able Consulting Inc. |
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